For those of you that do not subscribe to our facebook page, I have grouped here our daily snippets from the theme of NLP:
24th October 2011
NLP: Neuro-Linguistic Programming. N = Neuro (connections within the brain and body) Linguistics (language, how we express ourselves) Programming (how we internally structure our experiences, memory, knowledge etc).
25th October 2011
NLP: I mentioned last week about changing state through changing your breath. You can actually use any part of your thoughts/feelings/behaviour to change your state. When I say changing state, I mean changing the whole of your physiology, if you remember a time when you felt stupid, depressed, angry etc, you will know that all of your thoughts/feelings/behaviours matched up to suit your state/mood, if you remember a time when you felt confident, happy, amazed etc then you will know you experience a completely different set of thoughts/feelings/behaviours – go ahead now and notice any differences between the two sets you have just chosen (you did imagine yourself in the different states now didn’t you?). Your mind and body work together to experience particular states, so if you change something in either your feelings/thoughts/behaviour the rest has to follow suit. An example would be to move your body into a different position: compare standing up very straight with your head held high, to slumping over with your head hanging low; do you notice a shift in your feelings and thoughts too? In fact if you do compare these two states it is impossible to feel depressed whilst standing tall, and impossible to feel confident whilst maintaining a slumped body. Changing your state at high pressure moments does take some practice, although is well worth the effort (think of a state of extreme confidence at a job interview for example). Please share you experiences below, and feel free to ask any questions.
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26th October 2011
NLP: was heavily influenced by Milton Erickson (psychiatrist, psychotherapist and hypnotherapist), Virginia Satir (Family Psychotherapist) and Fritz Perls (psychiatrist and founder of Gestalt Therapy). Richard Bandler and John Grinder initially conducted a study of successful psychotherapists, and developed a system of modelling – that is; if somebody else has a skill, then the knowledge can be transferable, so in theory anybody has the potential to do this same skill. So NLP ‘is’ modelling. In everyday life modelling others can be very useful if there is something that you want or there is a skill you want/need to learn, all you need to do is find somebody else that already has what you want and start learning from them. Take money for example (spot the hypnotic message there), financially abundant people have a very different mind-set about money, they behave differently when out shopping and often are ‘abundant’ in many areas of their life. Money is a good example because we all have a belief and value system around it; “money doesn’t grow on trees” “the filthy rich” “money is the root of all evil”… I am sure you can name a few more! These are known in NLP as ‘limiting beliefs’. As an exercise, find a ‘rich’ person and ask them what their beliefs about money are, and then compare them with your own. Now where is my magic wand to change those old beliefs of yours… ? More on modelling tomorrow.
28th October 2011
NLP: People that are good at what they do, often are unable to tell you exactly ‘how’ they do it, to use an example here, imagine an artist trying to explain how he creates his masterpieces to somebody who has never painted before. Often there are two main problems that arise; the artist will only teach from his own learning style, and his personal map of the world; and he will only teach what is in his awareness at that time. NLP suggests that in order to learn somebody else’s skill, its useful to use your own learning style by asking questions and asking for demonstrations. So can you think of any questions now that YOU could ask an artist in order to start paining your own pictures? Examples would be ‘where do you start on the canvas?’ ‘Do you outline the picture first?’ ‘How do you mix the colours?’ ‘When is the best time of day to paint?’ ‘can you show me how you begin’. To REALLY finalise your learning, immediately teach what you have just learned to somebody else! This NLP modelling process can be used to learn all sorts of skills, it has been used to speed up training within the police force, the army, IBM and British Telecom, all with proven results.